Yesterday’s Zomato incident over religion wasn’t quite shocking. As non-vegetarians raised among strict vegetarians, i have seen this kind of discriminatory behavior a lot of times. People refuse to sit on the same table as us, refuse to eat even dried snacks at our home, kids at school make faces if any kid brings non-veg stuff and tease him/her. This kind of behavior over caste, religion, food is ingrained in our society. Respecting the person, his/her beliefs is something which should be the norm but sadly it isn’t. Practice what you want to but not by demeaning others and their choice.
It’s fun talking to teenagers.
Yesterday I met my son’s friend after a long time. He is a jovial chap who is very free with me. We started discussing about career and future plans. He said, “Aunty, I want to do something creative. I can’t imagine myself doing a desk job. I have plans to open a cafe where I can fulfill my passion of cooking and my cafe will also have live band playing music. You know na music is my another passion. Of course, I know I need to work first to save money to fulfill this dream of mine.”
I simply smiled and prayed that his dream come true some day. As youngsters, we have so many aspirations and dreams, sometimes they are fulfilled, sometimes they aren’t. Hope our kids enjoy what they do. Let their passion be their job.
When I was expecting my daughter, my son was 4 years old. My husband those days was extremely busy with his work and it was me and my sonny boy most of the time. We had involved him from day 1 of my pregnancy. He would hold my hands when I would walk with him on uneven roads or in rainy season. He was only 4, but he was confident that he wouldn’t let me fall. He would come back from school, eat, watch TV for a while or play on his own while I rested, especially during the last trimester. He would accompany me for the regular check-ups, get excited when he heard the Doppler. He was extremely happy when his sister was born and even then took great care.
My son is almost 17 now, but he is still the same..Empathy, love, care, compassion aren’t gender specific.
You can stop your child from watching TV or mobile for bad influence in terms of manners or language, how will the child be protected from badly-behaved elders in and outside the house? They influence much more. Elders who fight, who don’t say sorry, who insult, who rebuke, who use foul language, who yell and shout, who honk unnecessarily, who treat helpers badly, who break the queue, who don’t believe in gender equality, who spit and throw garbage anywhere, the list is endless..
Of course, ultimately the onus to raise “influence-free” kids comes on the parents! 😀