My daughter celebrated her 11th birthday last week and since we had gone out of Mumbai to celebrate, she decided to throw a party in a nearby mall for four of her friends this Sunday. Since all the girls were a bunch of 11-year-old’s it was not feasible to leave them alone in the mall for 2-3 (or may be more!) hours. So, my husband decided to drive the girls and be there (without being there amidst them) for that period. He didn’t complain to my daughter about it though!
My husband is a man of few words, and I have complained to him about this many times! But one thing is always there..his silent support. He might not say a 1000 words like me but he is always there for me, our son and our daughter without a word of complaint.
I am a blogger and keep on posting blogs on my timeline. I know even if there are no “likes” on my blog, there will always be this one “like”, yes, of my husband! He doesn’t believe that kids’ marks matter yet he always accompanies them along with me to the PTM (to save the kids from my wrath!!). He never misses the dance performances of my daughter, no matter what. He was a sportsperson during his school days whereas I don’t know S or sports. So, he has been the one teaching the kids all kinds of sports as and when possible.
I am not a very calm person whereas he is, so it kind of balances out the parenting part. My kids know whom to turn to when they want to sulk!
Well..people would ask what’s great in that? I wouldn’t gloat that I am lucky, yet I have to say this that not many Indian husbands/fathers support their spouses/children and be there for them at all times. Of course, times are changing yet I see so many non-involved partners and fathers. Isn’t marriage and parenting about sharing life, sharing responsibilities, being there for your family and supporting them?
Even now, while I write this blog he called me up and told me how he is sitting and watching our daughter and her friends dance around while he is chaperoning them..
This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’
I am walking through the clean sparkling corridors of the hospital. The staff greet me. Then I meet and examine my patients and they share not just their ailments but their worries with me too. They say I am a doctor who just doesn’t treat the body but treats the mind as well. My patients are children who need to be dealt with lots of love and patience. My job as a doctor is taxing but I love it. That’s what I had wanted to become since I was a child.
What if I had become a doctor? Yes, I am not a doctor but every time I sit in any doctor’s cabin somewhere my heart still aches. I am very happy with my life. May be I would have treated innumerable patients, instead now I write innumerable stories of my life.
What if I had become a doctor? May be I would have been married to someone else and not the wonderful man who is my husband now. My kids would have been someone else and not the lovely kids that I have now.
What if I had become a doctor? May be some dreams might have been fulfilled but may be I might have missed out on the fantastic moments that life has offered me so far.
What if I had become a doctor? May be I wouldn’t be writing a blog and taken writing seriously as my passion.
Women still fighting to enter a temple
Women being mocked at #MeToo
A 16-year-old rape victim denied admission in a school as if its her fault
Still the birth of a girl child being lamented upon
Still the girls/women asked to dress up and behave “properly” to avoid attention
Still marriage being seen as the salvation for any girl
Still so many women being ill treated at their marital home
Still many parents referring to their daughters as “paraya dhan”
And many, many more things to say..
And yet irony is that Devi is worshiped with fanfare
Whereas women still fighting for their love, respect and care..
I was watching the old movie Anand of Rajesh Khanna and Amitabh Bachchan today. In that movie one thing I like most, apart from Rajesh Khanna’s character’s positive attitude, is the way relationships are made easily and lovingly. Anand makes a nurse love him like his mom, a doctor’s wife his sister, and another doctor’s wife his bhabhi. He makes good friendship with Dr. Bhaskar, Amitabh’s character too.
It made me think why can’t relationships be so simple and unadulterated in real life? Of late, I have seen lot of “friendships with benefits”, relations of convenience and some motive. Can’t life be simpler? Then we say that our generation and our kids’ generation has become more practical. They learn by observing us, don’t they?