You can stop your child from watching TV or mobile for bad influence in terms of manners or language, how will the child be protected from badly-behaved elders in and outside the house? They influence much more. Elders who fight, who don’t say sorry, who insult, who rebuke, who use foul language, who yell and shout, who honk unnecessarily, who treat helpers badly, who break the queue, who don’t believe in gender equality, who spit and throw garbage anywhere, the list is endless..
Of course, ultimately the onus to raise “influence-free” kids comes on the parents! 😀
On days when I tell my son to take an auto and save time instead of waiting for the bus and he says “No Maa, A penny saved is a penny earned”, I know he has matured. This is the very child of mine who would ask for a stuff without checking its price or whether its really required or not. Of course, he was much younger back then. Now, he he knows what is important or necessary or priority and what is just an impulsive buy! Of course, we do indulge him once in a while. But this lesson learnt will help him throughout his life.
It has been raining since morning today. My son went for his tuition at 9:30 and will directly go to his college in Churchgate which takes 1 hour. In Mumbai rains, its difficult to get autos and buses, its difficult in the humid packed local trains, its difficult in the rains in general. Feel like telling my son, “Aaja ghar wapas.” But I know its his journey and he has to tirade through it. Our kids have to learn the realities and harsh facts of life. They have to strongly deal with them. Its just the beginning..
He woke up on his own, had his breakfast, kept out the trash to be collected, lined the dustbins with the bin bags, made his bed, had his bath, got ready and quietly went for his 10 am Accounts tuition. When I woke, my son had done all this and gone for his class.
That’s the beauty of having a grown-up child. Teens are labeled as irresponsible and brash, especially the sons. But when you put your efforts in inculcating the right values and making them responsible, the teens can turn out to be excellent human beings. Labeling any stage of the child or gender and generalizing it is wrong. Be it toddlers, teens, or sons..