When I see, read and hear parents worrying to the extent of getting paranoid about their kids’ safety, I am reminded of how so many times I have, as a mother, kept my composure and stayed strong leaving everything to the hands of destiny and the Almighty. I know many might find this unbelievable given the circumstances.
My son started with his education in Dharamsala, Himachal Pradesh. He was 2 years old when he started with a playschool there. The playschool was a nice one and my son spent good 3 hours there with very loving teachers and friends. He got to play and learn a few things too. My son used to go by a van and it took 15-20 minutes from our home to the playschool in the van. Being a hilly place, the way to his school had many steep and curvy roads. One particular road had a very steep U curve, which if not maneuvered properly by the driver could lead to fatal accident.
One morning after we woke up, we got to know that a fatal accident had occurred on that U curve road. A bus full of tourists from Gujarat had fallen in the cliff from that road and all tourists succumbed to that deathly fall. My little son went to his playschool from the very same route that day and all the other days to come. I couldn’t stop his playschool because of this accident, could I?
As parents both me and my husband always used to worry, we still worry, but we also know that we cannot stop living or let our kids to stop living normally. I have sent my kids for picnics and outings since the time they were in playgroup. I would remain worried till the time they reached home safely. I am still restless till the time my kids are back from school or my older child is back from his friend’s home or tuition or outing.
I know the world is not a safe place for kids. So, what do we do? Don’t we all wish that our kids would never be out of our sight, but is it really possible, is it really normal? I may be a little less paranoid than many, may be a tad too practical, but I cannot let my fear make my kids paranoid or stop them from enjoying a normal life. I cannot confine them to home.
Already the kids now know about murder, rape, molestation from a very young age. They are taught to trust no one right from the time they can barely speak. They already lose their innocence thanks to the way they are raised.
We have to stay strong, we have no other option.