One of the most commonly dreaded stages of a kid’s life for any parent is the teenage. Even before the child turns into a teenager, the books, websites, other parents instill the “dread” of bringing up a teen. Well..any stage of parenting, right from a newborn to a grown-up adult, of a child is challenging.
But why look at parenting as a challenge in the first place? Its like an exam. If we believe in our head that we cannot write well in an exam, it exactly happens! Everything is more in the mind than in reality. Of course, nobody said that it was easy.
But now when I am raising a teenager I realize that we need to think from their standpoint. They are at a stage of their life where they are battling physical changes, emotional turmoils, big hormonal transition, societal pressure, career pressure, peer pressure..whoa! Amidst all this if the parents don’t understand them then who will they turn to? Its an age where they are neither kid nor adult. They believe they are adults but somewhere deep within they are kids. They get confused; sometimes they are asked to behave as grown-ups whereas sometimes they are told that they are still immature! When they reason or raise their voice they are labelled rude, when they keep quiet they are termed unsocial.
I admit that sometimes I also behave unreasonably with my teenage son and feel really bad about it. But one thing both me and my husband have always ensured is to keep the communication channel open. We keep on talking to him. Sometimes he comes and pours his heart out, sometimes he doesn’t do that immediately. As parents, its better that we understand their emotional turmoil and guide them instead of rebuking them.
Teenage kids can be the best of friends! I never thought that I would find such a “good friend” in my teenage son. I can confide, cry, laugh, quarrel, be vulnerable with him. Kids are the least judgmental when it comes to their parents.
Parenting is a like a roller-coaster ride, with its ups and downs. Instead of screaming in fear, its better we enjoy the ride!