My dear future daughter-in-law

My dear future daughter-in-law,

This is a heartfelt letter from your future mother-in-law.  I don’t know who you are, from which part of the world you will be, but here I am pouring out my emotions as the mother of a son whom I love and who right now loves me the most.

I would never claim that I will love you like my own daughter because that’s practically impossible.  I don’t expect you to love me like your own mother either!  The relation from the womb is a lot different than the relation made by the law.  But this much I can assure you that I will never ever emotionally hurt you intentionally.  I will never treat you as an outsider like many MILs do.  That’s such a grave mistake!  After all, you will be my son’s wife, a part of our own family.  I will always support you to the best of my abilities in all your dreams.

We will both share the man we love, for you your husband, for me my son.  I will try to keep in mind always that both relations are different and would make my earnest efforts never to compare both the relations and create a rift.  This will affect all the relations.  I don’t want my son, whom I love so much, to be torn between two women whom he loves.  I can’t and won’t deny that there won’t be moments of jealousy, helplessness, feeling of emptiness; this is very natural.  After all a child who used to solely dependent on you now has someone else taking care and sharing his life with.  But that is the time when I will try to help myself.  If I overcome those moments, I will have good relations forever.

Now when I read the daughters-in-law getting fed up of their MILs, wanting to cut off relations, venting out to strangers about how the MILs have made their life hell, I dread the thought that might be any behavior or gesture of mine will make you vent out about me like that!!  Please do talk to me, tell me.  We will have our differences; I even have differences with my own children.  I believe communication can sort out the most complicated things as well!

I don’t claim that I will be the best MIL ever, but I will definitely try to be a good one who will treat you with love, respect and equality.  I am bringing up my son to be a gentleman who will be your partner for life and treat you as equal, like his father treats me.  He will treat your parents well, like his father treats mine!  After all, I would also like my daughter to have a MIL who will treat her well.  So, I can’t be a hypocrite!

Lastly, like you forgive your mother, please do overlook some of my follies sometimes.  I cannot be your mother, but at least we can have a good and cordial relation.  After all, I don’t want my “karma” to come and hit me in the fag end of my life.  My behavior will make me distant not just to you but I will spoil my relation with my son as well.

I want you to be happy that I have raised my son well.  I want you to be a happy DIL and not a sad, angry one who will never accept or forgive me for my behavior!  I would want to remember me with love even after my death as I remember my late MIL.

Hoping to have a bright future together.

Yours loving,

Future mother-in-law

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